Rain and Forum rules

 

It may be summer according your calendar and mine but it certainly doesn't much feel like it does it?

That works its way into things like very limited opportunities to be outdoors playing with torrential rain and hailstones even to contend with rather than keeping hydriated and slapping on copious amounts of Factor 50.

Something that does tend to come up from time to time is the Forum rules around content especially as it applies to discussion around spanking.

The first thing to say is whatever you views are or any involvement with it yourself, no one is judged for any view or personal engagement with it by the moderation team or people on the site.

The second ought to go without saying which is we are talking only about legal adults and anything that may apply to parents, grand parents etc really belongs on parenting type sites as we've no business being involved in that debate.

We're a site of Adults who retain much of our boyhood essence and do talk about our pasts.

The main purpose of the restricted discussion can be put quite simply as our hosts have Terms of Service and they don't allow "adult content" nor anything that be seen as child abuse material.

Now while we can rightly say we're talking about our times and that in looking at this part of past childhoods it certainly wasn't sexual, because for some today in other kinks it very much is (and if that's their thing, fine) our hosts slot ANYTHING to do with it under that category.

Upon reporting we'd lose the site and I'd be banned from using them. Simples.

It doesn't prevent you from saying in an introduction that you were - who wasn't back then? - but we don't go into describing the rituals with great quantities of prose such as the colour of your underwear and just were exactly they were at the first stroke.

A second reason even if I were to, involving some expense (and as I understand it current posts couldn't be imported) into a independent self hosted site is that experience at other sites has shown where you do permit greater discussion with pictures for good measure, it some comes to dominate such sites and that impacts discussion of the bigger portion of this life.

It doesn't take long before you get people joining just for that kind of talk and in effect your site becomes mainly a spanking site albeit with a twist.

The years since our conception in mid 2018 has shown there is a very real need for a discussion based site around being an adult little boy that talks about everything else such as hobbies, activities, past real lives and attire.

Those discussions are helping people come to terms with being an adult little boy, getting some of that carefree fun back, make sense of past experiences, making new-old memories even.

Those things are of far greater value than the seventh hundred spanking post whatever that person got from the experience and that's why the rules are what they are.

Sorting out terms

It's been a very hot week with temperatures upto 34.4 degrees C making doing anything rather a chore.

Terms can be hard to understand at times and people have sometimes asked about what ALB means and where it all fits in.

This is my easy to understand version.

ALB is the abbreviation for Adult Little Boy. You could say it's more or less the same thing as adult schoolboy but not as centred on Uniform  and school rituals of various sorts.

Think of things this way first time around: He's a boy obviously and has a social life at home, around his friends and various things he is involved in like sports or cubs.

That's one side of his life.

Because he is a boy and is now say over four years, he is now old enough to attend school where apart from learning things (hopefully) he also has a life in school activities and play in the playground.

The fact he goes to school makes him a school boy but he's also a boy maybe a little boy too.

Taking this forward the adult little boy is an (legal) adult who feels he has much of that little boy in him engaging in similar interests.

An adult schoolboy is that same adult little boy who has an interest in his (past) school life.

He wears school uniform, may do some studying similar to what he did and some may attend  recreated school type sessions where he is a pupil and person is playing a teacher/headmaster.

We alternate between the two sides because that makes us the whole person.

Being us and how we may be seen

We're going through the end of one cold spell with snow and ice which always makes me feel young although it has been difficult for me to get around on foot.

The extent to which and to what those of us who do dress and may be feel more like a boy are regarded in society is at one level a personal thing.

For some it is little more than a sense of re-enactment wearing the attire, typically a school uniform that connects with your boyhood past where you might explore or otherwise 'play' scenes from your past gaining enjoyment from doing just that.

For others such as myself there is a strong sense of "the eternal boy" in many respects emotionally and mentally in a boys mindset that even if you took away that uniform, would still be there.

With me it also links to having a disability where I am permanently child-like having the development of an actual child which is fixed and is therefore not something that one could switch off from.

Everything for me stems from that child's mind in a adults physical body so it isn't 'pure' regression with a point you enter into it and can exit and even less can it be considered age playing where for some brief and specified period I 'become' that boy and then go into full adulthood.

I always am it.

I generally prefer to call myself an Adult Little Boy as that is just it with nothing involving being 'little' with any kind of sexual relationship or bdsm connections.

Actually it is quite fine to be coming from things from whatever angle actually applies to you.

Sometimes people do wonder about how being the way we are may be seen and clearly nothing within what we are about is connected with child sexuality, we know the law sees us as 'adults' and therefore any and all contact and feelings towards children in that respect cannot be right. 

As an individual you may only have any close contact with any child you are personally responsible for as its parent or through approved procedures any youth organization and similar.

Some may take such concern to cover anything such as being seen to have an image that might include *anyone* under 21 at the time of being taken including yourself, any kind of memorial or statue that may be connected to or in the image of a child however small in it even if no actual child is present.

Nobody would criticize such an intent to protect our image although I do not accept that that in order to protect our image we need to go to such an attempts simply because such images are often in the hands of people such as parents, organizations going back many generations as family and social history and that this I feel is not a sign of an having an unsavoury interest in children having worked in child protection professionally.

Clearly in the digital age the use of images needs to be considered and covers not just any image manipulation but also of context such as  sexualized commentary and categorizing  which it goes without saying I don't allow at my place.

Mirror images

It's very much the autumn here which you can tell by both the start of the falling leaves, the soft orangy sun casting on to trees and grass and like on a morning like today it's a bit chilly when you wake up which is something I well remember from my school days.

Like one minute it is almost like summer as we play footie during recess, a number of us stripping down even to shorts to play - in truth we'd had then under our trousers  to save time changing - before changing back for the second set of periods of the morning

Photo credit: badger44grammar44

Like him (H) who in this recent picture from his latest tumblr, I too wear grey shorts and traditional turn over socks throughout the year and in a good number of ways he's been very much an influence on me giving a clear idea of how a modern schoolboy routed in the past might be cos unlike some ASB's I'm not just about nostalgia or replicating exactly that past I am that mindset today and am to an extent informed by modern culture as much as he sees himself as a traditional schoolboy.

You might say we're mirror images and he's one boy I can look in the eye and know he and I are on the same page.

Talking about being LB/ASB online

 

This week I will devote a bit time about talking about some of the restrictions on content that apply to ASB.net and how they contrast to my own forum The Uniformed Regressors Spot  and in saying that from the outset I will say I respect and follow ASB.nets right to its own rules and follow them.

The first thing to say is on ASB you are informed you are not to reference anything that happened to you under the age of 21 that was real and even if just referring to as a historical fact.

Let's start with that age-21. In the UK whatever our opinions might be you are regarded in law as an adult at 18 and won't finish university until around 20 to 21 years of age so not only can you not refer to your own boyhood that clearly has a lot to do with being ASB, your university life can't even though you were an adult at the time.

This clearly is bought in from the Adult Content end which is fundamentally the difference between it and mine being strongly regressive or re-enactively but effectively stops discussion of why you are ASB/LB and the return to how you were as a boy.

It limits discussion down to uniforms although another restriction is that although you can post pictures of actual whole school uniforms being worn, you cannot state which school it is.

Let me put it another way: a uniform is distinctive  and may even feature a logo so anyone who knows their uniforms would know and it it is possible you may of attended it, so what is it that's being gained here especially as the site content isn't visible unless you are logged in?

Personally I take the view the uniform having been obtained, what you do by way of posting photos of you in it is very much up to you, no law has been broken so unless you do something stupid like pose outside of that establishment while in session that's it.

The only other things you can talk about is hobbies but again subject to that whole no reference to anything you did under the age of 21 so I can't say I owned a locomotive or explored something at the age of 9 or Corporal Punishment although again my being spanked at the age of 9 can't be mentioned in any detail at all so we get "how do I look in this uniform" and My latest caning with pictures.

I've no issue with people who want to do that but I prefer to talk about ASB life and for a good number of us it is about boyhood pasts, does include regression/re-enactment and that's what you can't do there.

My place doesn't accept accounts and pictures of corporal punishment because that's one thing the host would see as Adult Content although a brief mention of having or having had it is accepted apart from finding once you get a lot of talk around that - and it's starting to creep in all ready - you start to lose the other part.

We do accept talking about your boyhood because it is what made you who you are and is integral to being LB/ASB revisiting either as pure regression or re-enactment and for some of us those years have had an effect on our lives.

It can be therapeutic. 

We also do allow hobbies and interests to be discussed so long as they are 'safe for work' and many do link to our boyhood pasts.

It's not in anyway competition for ASB but is a complementary place where those thing ASB doesn't permit may be discussed

I have the right...

to Structure

Something I wish to talk about this week  is the role of Structure within LB/ASB life.

Something that isn't said enough is what enables you to let out your LB/ASB side is that somebody else handles the responsibilities so you need not concern yourself with them, that in other words you do not have to be your own adult (assuming you are fully capable of it).

That totally frees you up to be that adult child because you know, you cannot, will not even be allowed to fall because the "responsible adult" be they a Caregiver in a DD or DM/lb relationship or the Cglre  Dxlb or Mxlb x taking out the "Dominant" with the BDSM kink overtones and in effect making it more paternalistic "Daddy or Mummy" 2 (adult) little boy or a ASB school centred Teacher/Head Teacher steps in ensuring you do not come to any harm.

You are that little boy to them and you will allow them to address you as such.

They also by consent deal with handling any dangerous, rude or otherwise risky behaviour  on your part by stepping in and being the one who disciplines you whither or not it it involves any or no corporal punishment.

The point is, by providing that structure, they enable you to be just you, the adult little boy just being a boy knowing he'll be cared for, safe and not likely to get into situations that work against his needs.

I have benefited from being spanked learning to be more responsible and generally more grown up these day and am glad of it.

Bringing out the boy

I'm not generally into anything beyond uniform outside of play wear and my footie strip although with many actual schools being off for some days there's an argument for saying the LB/ASB can presently take his cue from events and alter his presentation a little as much as I'm for dress shirts and ties normally. 

Tailoring matters I think in this life and one aspect around tailoring that does make a difference I feel is when it comes to getting the right leg length for you because newer generations are taller than we were at their age and many suppliers are only supplying longer inside leg lengths.

What may be just above the knee on them is more on or even only just above the bottom of my knees almost into Knickerbocker  territory.

By taking up to six inches, while not standing out too much in public settings that on a grey pair redefines me as a boy, a little longer than what I wore then and presents me in a way I feel most comfortable  with.

I like how these shorts presents me as without making super obvious, they do not smooth away my maleness.

Being comfortable in your own skin matters.

That's the difference finding and having your inside leg on your shorts adjusted makes and it is so worth it.

Second Tumblr anniversary post

Not so long now, April 12th to be exact marks the second anniversary of That Boarding Schoolboy, my first Tumblr which will be marked on their and commented up on an other blog.

That blog rather like here has seen grow and make some major changes in both how I see myself and how I live my life  from the implanted suggestions that I was at least a mixture of something else and a boy to one who is fully confident as just that, feeling no need to qualify because the last two years of living and exploration of the past has show just how normally boyish I am.

The one thing at the start of this, actually a couple month before was from the period of signing at to ASB feeling such an environment would be the one that would show what my colours truly were was learning anew the norms.

Like within a day while there was no set piece uniform there is a mode of dressing that I was expected based on gender and just gender conforming from the outset as if for all that attempted brainwashing I knew what was right.

Equally having spent so long in the company of the gender questioning and those who use gender neutral forms of expression, I was getting back used to being addressed expressly as a gender and talking to boys as a member that had shared the same interests and norms rather than tip toeing in the belief that gender norms were unreal and taught rather than just being innate with scope for personal differences.

It become obvious that from the inside out that was where I fitted and that really while we all have personal differences that doesn't alter you sex and being at the social level who you are.

None of this would of happened had I of not had the means of breaking away and exploring with others and in so many respects the importance of that tumblr isn't that I still have it for the many issues at that site but that two year period has seen me move into a understanding of myself and my position as a male that I am comfortable with
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Just a adult little boy happy being a boy, being spoken to very much as one by men who I look up to showing my respect doing as I am told even in in this emergency.

And that is a great thing.

Getting set to go

There is going to be a break in transmission on Tumblr and probably on the wordpress blogs that actually more reworked back ups of tumblrs because in a manner of speaking I'm getting my kit together for spending time as an adult little boy.

As I have sometimes said with a little bit of care over logo'd items, it isn't too hard to live out your life dressed as one at least out of the workplace although with some occupations like the Post Office you can have shorts supplied and just wear plain grey socks and achieve a fair bit 'under the radar' and the post office was far a period an employer of a good number 15 year olds straight out of school before leaving ages were upped.

The reason for being away is for doing things together as most of us don't like to be on our own in this life so rambles and that are best shared where you can and with the other stuff happening in March I really need to make the most of it.

Thoughts from away

The week's been  a bit different for spending time with friends doing things together which to me this whole life is really about rather than just how many times you can put on a uniform or some other outfit because its what you do that brings the sense of being that boy forever out much more I feel.

It is the invoking of the spirit of your boyhood past, what made you 'tick', feeling your whole mind and body was very much alive and allowing that to return to you after years of having to appear grown up but not actually feeling as one with it to being that boy all over again.

Now it is the case not everybody can be living like this all day long because people may have relationships to maintain, jobs to go to that may have dress code restrictions and so on but even spending sometime as that boy reaps dividends

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As well for reason only known to them Tumblr restored after nine months my original Traditional Schoolboy 2  blog after nuking it in November 2018 which I wrote about on here which I guess is better late than never.
A link to it is Here *

I do need to think through it's medium to long term future because I did in effect replace it even if most the images were not as it was too sudden to have a back up of as having multiple Tumblr accounts is messy.

*  altered 2021 after original account removed to replacement that has most of the posts but was renamed.

Being there

Sometimes you just might wonder why things happened the way they did, like why would it take exploring your past on a site by posting pictures of things from your childhood and writing about them should result in you having a clearer idea of who you are removing some of clutter others tried to drag into it.

Sometimes people  play all kind of silly identity politics games such as saying they don't feel the gender they were born with or even have an identity but most of time that's more they think because they may be slightly different than most of their real gender peers that makes them a whole 'nother gender.

There are times people try that on you but it became obvious that wasn't really me because I loved being that boy then and that really my issues really stemmed more from how my conditions and disabilities have left me still as that boy but with much of the world thinking you're a grown up and trying engage with you as one.

The thing I found on social media like Tumblr and on ASB was that there were people for different reasons saw themselves as Boys still who did play and have similar interests to that from their boyhood and that at ASB in particular they even dressed as schoolboys.

That kind of thing was where I was at around my mid teens really hating the few signs of puberty like hairs on arms I'd grown so in a way it was a dysphoria strictly speaking when I started to dress younger when I could.

Unlike some at ASB though I don't see being that boy in terms of wearing a uniform when it comes to presentation simply because we had play clothes for when we weren't at school so I do have more boys casual clothing for weekends playing locally mirroring that of todays boys of chronological age.

We had "best" for things like going to the theatre, church and big family occasions but otherwise at home I wore more casual shorts or sports shorts with t shirts and that's where it is in 2019 too.

I know my 'tribe' and I'm happy to be a boy cos boys are the best!

The ASB Edition

I decided to join a site specifically for Adult Schoolboys called Adult School Boys this month because I think just being with other adult schoolboys will actually help me reclaim chunks some people tried to deny in me just because I wasn't 100% straight as a die male and wanted to claim me for their own side.
Fact is you don't have dig deep under the surface in me to find my masculine side even if would benefit from a little tuition and learning to assert it self more because it is dominate in me

One thing about this regressed adult schoolboy thing is it picks up from how things were and an important standard is all the 'boys' wear white junior briefs with a Y front fly which I haven't worn in years.
I just decided to conform to my gender norms, buy and put myself back in what boys ARE supposed to wear without question, starting as I need to go on relearning and recovering what I need from now on. There is the fact my regression past has always been from a schoolboy setting even when I first started going back in time in my mid teens, I didn't jump gender, I just acted on my gender norms and feelings but from a boyish angle being every inch a schoolboy of ten in his short trousers.
I'd never even consider changing my sex to line up with anything else as whatever issues some in society may have with my gender expression, I love being a boy and love people who know and call me what I am: A Boy.
Joining ASB just makes a lot of sense of you're a adult school boy which I am.