Age Dysphoric discipline

The first thing to say upon opening this page is everything in it applies to an legal adult and is not about any present day child born after 2003.

Being Age Dysphoric means I am developmentally a child of my era with a chronological age that today is that of a legal adult permanently neither age playing a role as a child nor regressing back to being one.

For good measure I had and continue to have a variety of learning disabilities that mean simply you cannot use more adult reasoning based approaches because I don’t possess the mental skills to use them so they weren’t appropriate for me.

The thing was and is long discussions and scolding's when you have audible processing disorders mean the message gets jumbled up and I have little older child sense of 'self respect'.

 

In the period I experienced boyhood, it was accepted by everyone that whoever you were with had the right to discipline you in the absence of your parents and  in accordance with their own principals because as a boy you were in their care and your parents were not asked by anyone for their approval. 

If you were with a friend, if your friend was spanked for some offence and you did the same then so were you.

This was as much true of being at the home of a boy your were friends with playing as it was at church, cubs as it was in school except your school had policies that were communicated to your parents because they chose to send you to it.

As a boy therefore you knew as I did whenever you broke a rule whoever you were with was going to discipline you for it and that was that.

As that Age Dysphoric adult of ten the conventions of that era in disciplining me for dishonourable, disobedient and defiant behaviour and attitudes apply today as that developmentally speaking child in an an adult aged body.

As a boy of my childhood era adults have the right to spank me by hand, slipper or other implement  when I break the rules whenever they feel I deserve it. They have the last word.

Often it will be be on my bare bottom.

Adults of my era also had the right to cane boys for the most serious of breaches.

A boy of my era when told to get over a chair or bed for his caning obeys and on command unfastens his shorts so they can be pulled right down followed by his underpants amplifying the sense of being in disgrace and maximizing the cane's burning impact.

My bottom has the to right feel the stinging welts from the cane that my attitude and behaviour has deserved.

It is held by boys and adults in our era that the physical chastisement  by deliberately inflicting short-lived sharp pain on our bottoms teaches us to change our attitudes and behaviour by ourselves to avoid severe discomfort we feel

As that Age Dysphoric boy brought up in the spanking system "Deemed Adults" in relationships to me continue to discipline the adult child through the strict but fair use of corporal punishment as of right, as they feel I need it.

We always discuss how I'm handled from any support I need, the guidance around conduct and behaviour given and how I am disciplined with love when I need it to help raise a more helpful, responsible and better behaved adult child me.

CHRISTOPHER IS SPANKED BECAUSE HE IS YOUNG ENOUGH BENEFIT AS A AGE DYSPHORIC ADULT CHILD FROM IT.

The end result which as much as don’t like being in such discomfort  needs to be at least like this with me so I’m very conscious  of my sore bottom which for good measure I have to stand in the corner with it on display afterward while I think about my behaviour before being given lots of tlc and aftercare cos for me it’s not a pain trip, nor are the people who do discipline me into just dishing out pain, it’s because they actually care to put by the best way for me possible with guidance to do better and believe me, it is making a change for the better in me.

Learning to think about what I did, change the patterns that get me in trouble apart from making the management by me of very much  real life impacting disabilities much worse so I don’t make the most of my opportunities and abilities are really what this is about.

That’s why I’m so grateful all of this is happening even though in so many ways this stuff should of happened years ago because while there are to be blunt very real limits on what I can do by myself, learning to do more, carry myself more helps me to be more independent and to deal better with the adult world that surrounds me in a more grown up way.