Past winter dress

Just been outside with the temperatures around 9 degrees c (sorry don't do Imperial) and like noticed the coolness which really brought me around to dealing with the colder part of the year which for some us especially in infants and juniors meant thick wollen socks and duffle coats.

Mine's hanging up, ready to go when needed!

There was though something else.

Being in a more liberal environment, you could just wear a sweater in a design that the knitting pattern might of said "for Girls" if you liked it and the colour scheme was okay like dark pinks, pinky blue or torquoise.

You could wear tights, plain tights mind under shorts or the dreaded long trousers that were ofter colder than decent shorts and long woollen socks and mum did buy me the odd pair for winter so a look like that wasn't uncommon although needless to say back then it was a bit "out there"

Today it's not unknown for boys and men to were thick "nude" tights when playing football in the winter without any issues but back then it was unthinkable!

So much fuss about a few scraps of material,eh?

Please come this way, Joe

We are moving towards the great six weeks off we remember so well from our school days this does come into our world as adult  children as surprising we find they no longer resemble actual school children for that whole period.

Even if that uniform is a bit more up scale than many, one thing you can sure of is you won't see boys (or girl) about wearing them this summer.

This does have the knock on effect of making those of us who do still wear them rather stick out apart from posing the question "If we're still in that childhood, why are we still in our unforms now?"

Personally I feel at this time we're best staying in sync with them and wearing more contempary play clothes, t shorts and cargo/sports shorts and short socks while out unless we're going anywhere where "sunday best" or a retro school look is expressly called for.

It does mirror the reality - we didn't wear school uniform during the hols - and we are more likely to blend in in our own communities enjoying being who we are at this time of year.

Play and little boy reading

The week after all the D-Day stuff and as I'm typing this out weather appears to be very much all over the place as I headed out into the park during a sunnier dry spell in the proceedings.

Uniform continues to be a topic but another kind of uniform tends I feel to forgotten about and that what we wear for play as we didn't spend all our time sat in school as much as you might of felt that by Friday morning.

Unlike today where there's a massive market of casual branded clothing for life beyond school back then it was second bests and maybe the odd t shirt as schools then didn't accept them as uniform

Thus I was out in short charcoal short trousers and a red top and grey socks very much a seventies little boy.

Moving on, while on the other blog and the odd time here I've talked about reading  I do sit in a streamed children's reading session where books from peoples childhood are read and people do chat between and we finished one book on Sunday.

Although Enid Blyton was and remains all over children's literature in the UK, it remains a adult game to find every ism and -obic in all she wrote which reflected the world a child back then lived in when often little was meant and let's be honest how will today's children's favourites be seen in eighty or more years hence?

Her more recent publishers have had chunks rewritten to fit various agendas but when we read Noddy And Tessie Bear this didn't have references to gollies, and Noddy having a spanking removed.

After all it was written in 1952 and such things existed as indeed for me they did in 1972!

A bit like the comics we loved such as the Beano, everything is set in children's world - instead of Beanotown we have Toytown where things mirror in a way the world you are in - with the pleasures and disapointments of everyday life.

The story concerns a  playful adventure gone awrywith Noddy and Tessie not realizing what was about to happen unto it's too late and the consequences.

It was fun and I was able to get a fairly early copy free from alterations for my own story book collection as I read Noddy but was seldom bought any and those I'd of had were, like my childhood toys often handed to others on the basis "You a big boy now, you don't need them".

Odd ideas and no need fors

This is being put together on fly during the storms having had to pop outdoors to rescue the refuse bin that had blown over from the kerbside where it was put out for collection just before I got to sleep after eleven last night.

Things are moving ahead with this time away fairly well other than this cryptic comment to say that a person one was picking up enroute had apparently stipulated that one wasn't to wear shorts as in that area you'd stand out and could lead to comments and that.

Instead they suggested wearing long trousers or a kilt.

It's rather less that being in a development of relatively low level flats with shared garden that one might be mindful for having a high likelihood of having mothers with school age children of wearing school uniform entering and leaving their place.

One is obliged pretty much to read the room when it comes to shared public spaces such as parks but on the face of it it a kilt in  home counties of England would stand out and in any event shorts is a broad term.

For instance while I do have school short trousers in various shades of grey, I do have blue cordoroy ones that next to nobody would associate with school and a pair of cream long cargo shorts that go just above the knee that in this area many men wear all year around.

You'd think the latter would of been acceptable as casualwear or are there torchlight swaying in the night mobs that would create scenes that see men in shorts as a threat to their children running the corridors in that area?

Given I've no long trousers that fit given there is no need in my life for them, to accommodate  this individual I'll wear a pair of black Puma trackpants which ironically when worn with a baseball jacket, cap and trainers only saw me attempted to be framed for a crime I didn't commit and told by the police in Cheshire that if I didn't wish to be be on the end any unwanted attention I was to present differently in their area.

That same look was never an issue in London or Surrey.

Measurement

Things are different than where they were at the start of this whole adventure several years back when things were more in a loop, exploring getting so far and stepping back and when I rather assumed it was all about the clothes.

Well, the clothes were definately in there but since then I can see it's connected more to things such as roles, how I see me in my own mind and how certain medical conditions and boyhood incidents leave me.

That washing line may as well be mine with shorter than most modern boys short trousers, long socks , white or grey shirts and white y fronts all very much on display to the world sending a clear signal a traditional school boy lives here whatever age officially may be recorded and often is seen about in public as one.

It's really more about accepting and being your authentic self on a daily basis, not feeling you have to put on an act for the benefit of others that just makes you feel quite sad as if they cannot accept the real you.

I just feel so much better now.

Boyhood fashion musings

Sometimes I talk a bit about attire on here, sometimes about whatever may be on my mind, sometimes more around boys regression and I feel that makes it different.

That's always been what makes this blog different than the others, it's a bit "behind the scenes" and it has a different sort of focus really.

One thing that has fascinated me really from childhood onwards are fashion trends and how they influence even those things that are not really meant to be fashionable by design.

For instance there was during the late eighties a push on Grandfather Shirts with rounded necks that never really took off and then there was the battle between the traditional duffle coat versus the cool 'mod' influenced Parker Jacket with its fur trimmed hood and the push in the late 80's for the Baseball jacket, not that as Brits we generally play that game.

I did have a few at the time!

But anyway the big one was waists on our underpants, shorts and long trousers because if you get low waisted shorts with high or natural waisted underpants you usually end up with a fair bit showing at the rear!

Thing is I remember when I was much younger how the waists of my shorts were and any 'tailored' longs too and they went to your natural waist - the thing we measure to get our trousers to fit - and that our shirt tails were longer than today.

Toss in our interlocking vests and underpants and that was snug.

This boys are at the natural waist and that was how it looked with a sleeveless jersey or standard jersey on.

As I got older I started to notice the waist bands started getting lower and starting to feel draughts more around the small of my back (my spine is curved, usually in pain and I notice stuff like this) and it got to the point that in America, then President Obama felt obliged to call out the trend for those wearing "low rider" trousers showing not just the waist band of their underpants but a fair bit of bum!

Where did this low waist trend come from and was it about just saving material costs?

Recalling the summer outdoor play 2020

Way back in September 2017 almost to the day on the other blog, I wrote a little about what the summer hols felt like as that boy, off from school for around 6 to 8 weeks where we'd be let loose for a period before returning to school.

That for most of us meant moving up a form or year group in September if not transfer to another school such as a high school so you could say that ritual was a pretty important one in our lives.

That was our time to explore our surroundings with mates, discover new places and things and play for hours or at least until our Mum's called us in for tea.

It was also the time that they, because in our era the best we got was a say, put us in t shirts and games shorts in part cos it was easier for them to wash and also because they recognized we needed to get as much sunlight on our bodies regulated by applications of suncream on our bodies to be healthy.

This for me it was different because I spent my time taken back in time to that routine and what is more I had shorts that were much shorter than any I had worn since then on just like I did then being new old stock 80's shorts.

I felt very different because while I always wore shorts they had tended to be the baggy Bermuda sort when not tailored school type ones.

I felt a lot healthier for being out in them getting my thigh's downwards well tanned  rather than looking very white and having those adventures again made me feel very much that boy all over again.

I really don't need longs or long shorts to be me.

I have the right...

to Structure

Something I wish to talk about this week  is the role of Structure within LB/ASB life.

Something that isn't said enough is what enables you to let out your LB/ASB side is that somebody else handles the responsibilities so you need not concern yourself with them, that in other words you do not have to be your own adult (assuming you are fully capable of it).

That totally frees you up to be that adult child because you know, you cannot, will not even be allowed to fall because the "responsible adult" be they a Caregiver in a DD or DM/lb relationship or the Cglre  Dxlb or Mxlb x taking out the "Dominant" with the BDSM kink overtones and in effect making it more paternalistic "Daddy or Mummy" 2 (adult) little boy or a ASB school centred Teacher/Head Teacher steps in ensuring you do not come to any harm.

You are that little boy to them and you will allow them to address you as such.

They also by consent deal with handling any dangerous, rude or otherwise risky behaviour  on your part by stepping in and being the one who disciplines you whither or not it it involves any or no corporal punishment.

The point is, by providing that structure, they enable you to be just you, the adult little boy just being a boy knowing he'll be cared for, safe and not likely to get into situations that work against his needs.

I have benefited from being spanked learning to be more responsible and generally more grown up these day and am glad of it.