Oh Miss Manners

Hello and welcome back after last weeks egg frying weather which I'm only just recovering from glad as I am it's a good eight to ten degrees cooler than it was and life continues at the forum even if understandably people were flagging during the daytime.

Communication styles vary if you've ever been in chat rooms with some using the clipped comments heavily laden with abbreviations that don't have full stops (AmE: periods) between each abbreviation per word so it's no always apparent just what they're saying.

Others just seem to type in what they themselves want without consideration of what you be looking for which really doesn't achieve anything that resembles a good face to face chat or just feel it's okay to keep you up because...they're bored.

Sometimes we get I certainly get message from people who appear to be very desperate to reach out to others or even attempt a two way conversation over my blogs.

Let's start with the basics.

They exist to help explore and discuss what this life all about and that can certainly include a comment about a post and if I get a few, chances are they may influence another post.

What isn't good is when you just type out your contact details with no reference to what was posted coming over as a bit rude and expect me to authorize that for publishing.

It won't be when it makes no reference at all to the post.

You wish to talk about ALB/ASB life, then come on over to uniformedregressors join in and if you wish talk to people via direct messaging or share your email address using it.

All you need to know is on site.

"You like what, Chris?"

Not the best start to the week with sudden and very powerful miagrain so this weeks post will be short as overing catchup only brings things back on again.

During this period of enforced rest thoughts went back to that time when your mate would indicate "You did what?" intimating it was beneath boys like you and maybe your friendship might be tested if he felt he'd get grief from others about it.

Strong infants memories with me was Music and Movement where Mrs Bell attempted to play the piano or the BBC School program was put on and we'd have to dance to it which wasn't so bad when it was pretending to  be a dragon but something like an icicle with lots of delicate movements didn't do your street cred much good as much I liked things like that.

Back then to had said you'd love to take dance or ballet classes would of been reputation suicide back them for most boys.

Thankfully we've moved on a bit.

Changes at the forum Summer 2026

Back and with a shortish post as we've been busy catching up on things since the start of the weekend, looking at changes at our Forum.

When we or more accurately I set it up it was really around the time of forum softwear issues with asb.net, Misterpoll running out of steam plus Robbies narrow focus on just boys school uniform and Tumblr starting on became the great purge of 2018.

Thus in a lot of ways the rules and many of the threads we created refected we were a set adults but still in spirit lads talking about the things that interested us as if we're still in our beloved grey short trousers playing very much on boys only terms not that we barred girls, we just didn't consider they'd really want to join.

Forums are on a downward trend with social media with its very much short term bits of stuff way of looking at things with no threads and that just stuff you say and by weeks on it's just lost and that has meant forums that allow for more role playing or regression for both adult boys and girls too have mainly gone.

We also have to recognize some boys do like role playing girls and so any site has to cover all of us who love doing this.

We already have members who fit that and bearing that in mind and Jo joining us I feel we need to say we're for anyone who is prepared to follow our rules.

Some people may of put a rigid gender split in the forum - a boys club and a girls club - but I think it's better for people to be able to join in talking about anything however gender untypical  letting people add whatever threads they need and Jo has set a few more girlcentric ones and she can if she has something to say talk in those we set up.

That is very much the way UR is going to be, adapting incrementally to changes, adding as we've done with our fiction and Ai inspired art recently to our offering to everyone.

If a thread isn't for you - not everything is for me - then just move along to something that does or if it's missing, create it.

Over and out

Awayday

This weekend I've been away so really not much time to prepare posts apart from me not being keen taking a chromebook with me to start posting, looking at sites like our own as really going away is supposed to be more about taking a break.

With health challenges and other things that break is the thing I need more than all this online stuff.

This is something near where I am, Arnside which a quiet village in the far south of Westmorland which has a old style charm to it unspoilt by mass tourism that you find around the main Lakes although it can be a bit busy.

That's one reason I like to go there.

Plimsoles

We're in a bit of rush today as I have a number of things to get done while I'm away for the weekend which given some of the stuff I've mentioned on the forum is much needed.

Of course going away does sometimes mean reviewing and replacing the odd thing as you sort your stuff ready to pack your travel case.

Canvas soled footwear was very much a part of my childhood and for good number a part of their casual side later on in life but aself fastening pair of plimsoles have a allure that's just for us being so tied into our old-new lives.

Seeing my older pair were a bit of a tight fit I bought a new pair to take with me as there will be  sports and water pistol fight taking place.

Getting back to things

It's been yet another hot week requiring hydriation, the art of finding places in the shade, having the fans running full on at home and rooting out the shortest loosest fitting tops and shorts just in order to be comfortable and not suffer as I did during the first heatwave of the year from heatstroke and related issues.

We've had a couple of more members at the forum making a splash including one wearing a dress - unusual but hey why not - because it is for all of us and that does include girls that will in time lead to some differing discussion threads that may more for them but like every other open to all if they have something to say.

Imagine  a world where we were all returned - and for some more placed in attire they'd of prefered - being they boys they felt they were still, being able to do more of what they wanted together, play, trips together free from anything adult.

Part of the movement that saw quite rightly the abolition of child labour was the belief that children should be allowed to be children but in the build up to it no doubt inpromptu play existed where they could get the time even though they worked long hours.

There is a movement more for legal adults to be able to play more, the growth of playgrounds for adults as well as children, to be able to let off steam playing games that aren't tied into a serious aim like a competition or fund raising.

Heck to be able to at least some of that childhood freedom back.

Tossing a chunk a adulthood back was one of the most liberating things I ever did.

Spankies

In some ways a bit of a follow on from last weeks post but all very relatable stuff if like most of us you did actually have a childhood.

Big adult worries add words and expressions but they were further away from our immediate world having dug out massive amounts of sand on the beach where the car tyres were situated to much of Dad's annoyance whilst on our hols.

We hadn't thought through just how we were going to get back to our guest houseand if apart from anything else rather ouchie, we'd be pushing the car past where we'd dug!

There's a lot in a Peanuts strip, some sad, some really serious but this is one that takes me back to conversations about what our home life was like or just whey did we leave the lesson half way to see the Head Teacher.

Suprisingly to some today , as painful as it was to us personally we'd uphold those standards back then.

Even a certain cat appears to have had similar views