Coping and being cared for

The present corona virus pandemic is very worrying but for boys that advice by Mr. Rodgers is really the thing that matters now as it did then.

Men and indeed women are not waiting around while talking up the crisis but instead are doing what is responsible and lending a hand to help, showing real leadership and good morals not ransacking food stores creating more problems for everyone at such a stressful time.

Other things that tie into included going for a long walk to get away from the relentless coverage in the media dressed in grey shorts and socks (covered elsewhere by my walking post) where men spoke with me checking I was okay.

It felt lovely to be cared for by adults of my own gender, man to adult boy who just engaged with me more like their own sons reflecting masculine care for each other.

Getting with the program

After a busy, somewhat mithering week where the Corona virus is the major topic as a person who is more potentially vulnerable being in a more 'at risk' group which is impacting on some of the things I follow such as footie with matches being played either without crowds to reduce cross -infection or even postponed and personally I need to be a bit careful about the areas I go out in, returning to one of the main narratives of this blog also seems appropriate.

A good start point in all this is to say what would be the response for adult in law but in other respects boy be to such troubling situations?

Let's start by recognizing I coped learning to use my abilities to handle the challenges of being physically and developmentally disabled to make a life for myself as much as I may need supervision and support from time to time.

I had a poor track record of childhood illnesses requiring time away from school and time often in bed but I kept my own spirits up learning to manage my vulnerabilities to minimize becoming ill.

Of late I adapted a more outdoor lifestyle with a lot of fresh air and exercise to promote more vigour and resilience which was hard for me but has helped in having the lowest instances of colds and aches.

It seems to me that more of that keeping away from major population centres will help keep the risk of infection down while ensuring I don't give in to mental contamination, keeping my spirit up and full throttle.

When I may be unable to go where I'd like I need to take it as a boy and do things I can instead such as read and make things refusing to allow this current emergency define me and show some spirit instead.

Reintergration

Things across the week were  not quite as anticipated so arrangements around my birthday were different as any social sides such as meeting with my folks would of needed to had been left to the weekend.

One thing that has been different stems from the changes around my presentation at a number of sites that go back to the period I was rather messed up which which I talked about on here when I decided to stand up tall, tear down publicly that mess and make openly male profile.

Lesser people would of just wiped accounts and started all over again.

Anyway like a few sites, the boards have enabled a birthday feature and in a thread I regularly post in, I mentioned my birthday.
I just thought the odd person I might of passed a brief greeting but I was very wrong.

Appreciation was shown for the posts I had made including those that knew me from that muddled up past.

Men spoke in favour of what I had contributed,overtly gendering me, clearly accepting me as nothing less than male and a bloke like them.

I have come out, been assessed for the measure of being a bloke and accepted.

In addition, I made an account at a site devoted to an author of children's books that started from day one as male, politely showed my more Alb side without using that phrase and wrote an introduction.
They have accepted me too as just that - a male with no exceptions. 

This has been a momentous day for me. Social reintegration.

Surviving adulting edition.

By the time you've seen this I've been out for most of the day in the Court looking more like an older schoolboy in longs - I wouldn't push classic ASB presentation on His Honourable Judge even if chunks do get accepted.

That's cos I'm there to do a groan up extremely important role in Adult Society even though I'm lousy at faking being a grown cos I'm not and you know it.

Thus while I absolutely can't talk about what I've done today, the one thing that has been happening is as soon as I've got in I've changed the longs for shorts  as I've got my turn over top school socks and that on anyway to mentally switch off for a few hours before bed and another day in Court.

Then add a spot playing with my toys.

It's the only way an adult but child me can cope with this but it'll be all over with by next Friday god willing.

Regressed spaces and welfare

Sorry for bring a bit slow at putting together this weeks edition of That Traditional Schoolboy's Dorm but you know no sooner than you come back that there are other Real World issues to deal with so my time has been spent rather more on them.
One issue I did kind of mention a few weeks ago was this whole question of mentions of actual Children and experiences on websites about age play, age regression and spanking.

To be honest I don't feel people understand just what the problem area of taking debates  around child raising to what are 18+ "adult sites", the way it may look to outsiders, how it may leave people who whatever they may be doing on such sites are dealing with traumatic childhoods that touch the issues never mind how it can be a site is seen as endorsing a point of view on behalf of its users.

Those discussions simply don't belong on age regression or spanking related sites just for "adults"  never mind having users imply a refusal to support any individual point of view supports or condones another that takes you completely out of the mindset and purpose of being on such sites.

On age regression sites in particular, we are going very much into working with our child-like sides with the mindset of our younger selves writing stories, drawing having role playing stories rooted in our pasts that had no part in grown up discussion of the issues at the time and where the attempt to takes us out of it. For some of us it is a coping mechanism that we badly need - it's not Adult News Central - with all the headlines and debates on the screen distracting us.

It is our place away from all that.

They belong in the relevant discussion forums for politics and parenting issues for those most affected by them.
Let's keep our spaces just for us and the reasons we need them.

Away thoughts

You know the best thing any person can be is their authentic selves and that's one thing I will be this week while I'm away enjoying being adult little boy around other adult littles as himself.
Nothing more and nothing less than that indoors and out where we'll be rambling enjoying the countryside when not just messing about and there's nothing wrong with doing just that.

Or making something from lego or playing with trains because all that comes from within.

They went trainspotting, enjoying themselves watching the trains and getting to grips with what makes them work, no doubt talking to railway staff learning about how the railway works.

In 2020 I accepted an offer to go trainspotting, just like they did while in the past I'd of passed up on it unless it was part and parcel of being under the care of an Uncle or my Dad, taking pictures and even volunteering to go into a railway station museum.
I actually loved doing it in the company of men.

While I had gone on steam trains in early boyhood, that was generally because Dad always wanted to and so you all did sometimes to the exclusion of other things we would of preferred which took a lot away from any sense of enjoying it.
This also helped some of those people who tried putting a wedge between me and being a male because while there are some females who are train enthusiasts it remains overwhelmingly a boys and mens thing.
A sign of how much better I am feeling about being male was that I chose to take that journey for the first time in many years not as has been the case when travelling by train has been just about getting to work based activities but for pleasure.
I felt free to be an eternal boy enjoying the sounds, rhythms  and excitement  just like a ten year old boy. I felt great getting excited over it all, being alive in a male body.

I rejoined the world of men and boys as not one female ventured into the engine shed with its smell of oil and smoke and dirt walking around the exhibits, opening conversations with men I never knew freely, feeling very much a part of them, proof that I identify as nothing other than that.

I AM NOT ONLY PHYSICALLY BUT SOCIALLY MALE WITHOUT ANY FEMININE TRAITS BELONGING ONLY IN THE WORLD OF MEN AND BOYS.

The time away spending time in the mainly masculine world underscored the double metaphor of being on this exploration of myself and my past and the arrival at the end of that journey as with being in the engine shed.

The parts were all there, the original plans discovered being used to enable full restoration to be achieved and this ol' engine showed he could hack it all along going full steam ahead knowing his place and feeling the happiest in ages for being male and accepted by men as nothing else.

This week has been the week I fully let my maleness out after all this time, publicly presenting and asserting my gender.

There WILL be no going back from now on.

Getting set to go

There is going to be a break in transmission on Tumblr and probably on the wordpress blogs that actually more reworked back ups of tumblrs because in a manner of speaking I'm getting my kit together for spending time as an adult little boy.

As I have sometimes said with a little bit of care over logo'd items, it isn't too hard to live out your life dressed as one at least out of the workplace although with some occupations like the Post Office you can have shorts supplied and just wear plain grey socks and achieve a fair bit 'under the radar' and the post office was far a period an employer of a good number 15 year olds straight out of school before leaving ages were upped.

The reason for being away is for doing things together as most of us don't like to be on our own in this life so rambles and that are best shared where you can and with the other stuff happening in March I really need to make the most of it.