Working WITH emotions

Hello and welcome to this weeks edition of That Traditional Schoolboy's Dorm where we take sometimes a rawer and sorer look at adult little boy life and what being that male really means in today's world.

One thing that can't be denied is the linkage between the past and the present  thus for much of yesterday Alison was on my mind who joined us in Juniors when the family moved from Scotland to here in Staffordshire and who sadly her mother died just before Christmas but between the investigations into cause of death - Cancer - and the Christmas hols these things take time.

Anyone that really knows me understands it's a rough time of year emotionally where all the stuff about presents, carols and a man in red and white are mixed in with deaths of childhood friends as that child in this period. And that life and death cycle don't stop. 

It IS hard to stay on top of that continuing on in your life but you need learn strike the balance between understanding the need to listen, reflect and act on the advice of others and what is just anxiety making pressure from people who just feel everybody needs to follow them and their ways of handling things.

While I rather suspect this glossy magazine's cover is a mock up, it does indicate some of pressures that are brought to bear on us which these days do include appearance.
While it's good to be healthy and to have muscles which working out with can help lift your mood, a preoccupation with body image leads you to ignore what matters most - your personality - and what you have to offer. 

It is okay to accept and talk through your feelings but being emotionally incontinent, letting our feelings just run out of us like a torrent isn't healthy because we just get flooded and drift away rather than focusing on how to fix what is ailing us 
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It isn't becoming of us  to be always on the edge of blubbering away as it solves nothing and certainly no girl wants something that emotionally at least is like  a needy girlfriend, she wants a man that cares, that has emotions but also has balls. 

To be blunt we should Man Up cutting out the media supported Woke crying man act and get on with the business of fixing it, supporting our friends and family and moving on from what undeniable caused us pain and upset.

lt may not always be easy but its better for men and boys. We work WITH emotions.

Masculine mental health

Because I and this blog is unshakably pro male supporting those things that we excel in doesn't mean to say everything in the world of boys is always right and critically because you are experiencing them does not make you any less a male for all that.

There are problems around body self image that effect some boys, worrying increasingly so that lead into issues around anorexia and self harming that may be connected to impossibly unrealistic images of men shown in advertising and 'gym club culture'.

We don't all get a 'perfect' six pack.

Something like one man in nine is abused in intimate relationships by women, many boys are intimidated and bullied by men who are trying to live their own lives through their sons  in sports, careers and religious observance and some women in positions of power routinely put down boys and men in front of their peers.

Abuse need not be physical, indeed abuse by girls and women on males can take the form of mental or psychological cruelty.

As boys and men we can be sexually abused by either men in homosexual relationships or by women and girls so a man or boy can and sadly is raped.

As men and boys we need to support each other dealing with these challenges, listen, reflect and advise where we can.

A boy or man who comes out to his mates about his challenges isn't soft or making a fuss about nothing, he is talking about the pain he feels.

A guy who has the Balls to come out with it has got more guts than any who just passes it off as if it never happened  and is very much a Real Man for it because by doing so he's enabling himself to receive the support he needs to work on how he's effected  and take control of its outcome.

He is a real man, a bloke and we will stand by him.

A call to arms

Another day attempting to stay alive in the Manosphere in spite of everything

One thing that really pisses me off on Tumblr is how it is the advertising and features are aimed very much at 'females' wither or not they stick the word boy or girl in with it as if no one who could be described as being male is allowed to exist like it is only a female space and yet they talk so much about being inclusive and supporting gender equality.

You cannot opt out of this advertising  which often has a extreme feminist anti male agenda running through it and to complain about how it's just not scientifically correct to refer to over 75 'genders' some of which are inter species for good measure publically risks having your posts removed or accounts terminated even though they may refer to masculinity as toxic with impunity.

Put it this way, as a person who age regresses for reasons of trauma as well as cognitive issues affecting development, I am exploring and working with my boyhood past channelling  my buried maleness reengaging with it.

I am reading and doing colouring things that are clearly for and about boys and our expression of what it means to be one and asserting my Balls confronting the crap that is being thrust at us.

I KNOW WHAT I AM - AN EFFING BOY - AND I WON'T DENY WHAT MY REAL GENDER IS TO MYSELF OR IN THE PRESENCE OF OTHERS. 

Thanksgiving and Tumblr

The week has been and gone pretty much with remaking the Traditional Schoolboy2 being a priority with me and so far I've got over 130 posts on it, redoing the about with a stricter indication of who it's for and that doesn't include sissies and reinstating the original header.
I managed to get a near original url for it too which is nice but as it seems Tumblr do look at certain tags I've decided with some reluctance not to bother tagging posts for that Tumblr and discontinue tagging anything outside of purely regressive alb/asb posts on the main Tumblr.
Talking of which I have got that one tethered to two separate accounts  outside the main one so in the event of my main account being removed, the other two will remain together with the group blog.

Getting more to what I'd sooner blog about on here unlike the other Blog, it's the time of you one thinks of the things and people that have sustained me across the year one has to include God, without him answering my prayers quite simply this blog would not be here because I almost died.
I have to include the people in the local health service who acted swiftly to deal with the infection that was killing me and the follow up work.
Many people have helped across this year and I guess the person I owe much for is Sammy who accepted me as I arrived on Tumblr a bit confused around how I saw myself who supported me as I started to explore my childhood past as we discovered there was very much a boy in one who if a bit different in someways was most certainly masculine and confident in it.
By challenging me and calling out what he considered to be wrong turns he got me to think about how I felt rather than just saying "well some people do" or "Its okay be different" I did not set about copying him but arriving at my own understandings of what is masculine behaviour for me I learned to take control, detaching myself from acquired overtly feminine habits, behaviours and attitudes that had made me feel off. 
Feeling good about being a male and boy is great and that is truly worth being thankful of.