Working WITH emotions

Hello and welcome to this weeks edition of That Traditional Schoolboy's Dorm where we take sometimes a rawer and sorer look at adult little boy life and what being that male really means in today's world.

One thing that can't be denied is the linkage between the past and the present  thus for much of yesterday Alison was on my mind who joined us in Juniors when the family moved from Scotland to here in Staffordshire and who sadly her mother died just before Christmas but between the investigations into cause of death - Cancer - and the Christmas hols these things take time.

Anyone that really knows me understands it's a rough time of year emotionally where all the stuff about presents, carols and a man in red and white are mixed in with deaths of childhood friends as that child in this period. And that life and death cycle don't stop. 

It IS hard to stay on top of that continuing on in your life but you need learn strike the balance between understanding the need to listen, reflect and act on the advice of others and what is just anxiety making pressure from people who just feel everybody needs to follow them and their ways of handling things.

While I rather suspect this glossy magazine's cover is a mock up, it does indicate some of pressures that are brought to bear on us which these days do include appearance.
While it's good to be healthy and to have muscles which working out with can help lift your mood, a preoccupation with body image leads you to ignore what matters most - your personality - and what you have to offer. 

It is okay to accept and talk through your feelings but being emotionally incontinent, letting our feelings just run out of us like a torrent isn't healthy because we just get flooded and drift away rather than focusing on how to fix what is ailing us 
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It isn't becoming of us  to be always on the edge of blubbering away as it solves nothing and certainly no girl wants something that emotionally at least is like  a needy girlfriend, she wants a man that cares, that has emotions but also has balls. 

To be blunt we should Man Up cutting out the media supported Woke crying man act and get on with the business of fixing it, supporting our friends and family and moving on from what undeniable caused us pain and upset.

lt may not always be easy but its better for men and boys. We work WITH emotions.