One take is more of an individual being made to be boy, a junior in a relationship that he may be prepared to go along with but ultimately is of that other persons choosing.
Personally I have to be honest and say I never ever felt remotely 'adult' in my life even if I may of had some more sophisticated interests and hobbies that I could hold my own in with people who clear were adults.
The minute we moved from them to something else, the deficit in my development compared to others would show as I was then a child-like person in a grown up world struggling to cope never mind feeling very vulnerable which I was.
Age dysphoria is like that.
I never wanted adult status because in so many ways I cannot use much of what it gave me and more to the point being given it removed the support and understanding of people that what they were (and are) dealing with is a child in an adult shell.
To me then to wear more boyish attire to the point of say a school uniform isn't just a quirk, a thing I just like the look of, it matches how I am, how emotionally and developmentally I am and does tend to lead more to an understanding that especially as I do look young physically I am more that child and tilt people toward understanding my limitations.
Some people may say "limitations, that sounds negative?" but no, actual child me had those limitations that were not so pronounced because I didn't need to do things that exposed them and in any event what did I do?
I went to school, joined activities and played and for those it wasn't so much of a problem for people so being that child was fine.
The problem came when you wanted me to be an adult and I didn't have what it took to do that not because I didn't want to but because just turning an age - 18 here in the UK - didn't just give me the means but you expected me to do it.
To me then asb works as taking back in time coping mechanism put putting more in the social environment where how I am seen matched again how I am and treated and if that means rules and some oversight then I'm more than happy to have that to regular adulthood.
I never wanted adult status because in so many ways I cannot use much of what it gave me and more to the point being given it removed the support and understanding of people that what they were (and are) dealing with is a child in an adult shell.
To me then to wear more boyish attire to the point of say a school uniform isn't just a quirk, a thing I just like the look of, it matches how I am, how emotionally and developmentally I am and does tend to lead more to an understanding that especially as I do look young physically I am more that child and tilt people toward understanding my limitations.
Some people may say "limitations, that sounds negative?" but no, actual child me had those limitations that were not so pronounced because I didn't need to do things that exposed them and in any event what did I do?
I went to school, joined activities and played and for those it wasn't so much of a problem for people so being that child was fine.
The problem came when you wanted me to be an adult and I didn't have what it took to do that not because I didn't want to but because just turning an age - 18 here in the UK - didn't just give me the means but you expected me to do it.
To me then asb works as taking back in time coping mechanism put putting more in the social environment where how I am seen matched again how I am and treated and if that means rules and some oversight then I'm more than happy to have that to regular adulthood.
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