Up with Rules!

I was reading a piece on popular CGLRE regression site around around rules and punishments in a non-sexual relationship which raised a few eyebrows with me to the point I decided I could not reblog that on Tumblr simply because it isn't where I am at.

Unlike them I disagree entirely with the proposition rules don't work and detesting the very nature of punishments. 

They seem to feel it's just kink or power grabbing thing to say a little needs rules and instead feel say a bedtime should be seen as a guidance, something you to do and if you do not then you should bear the consequence of being too tired to function, of missing out on a planned activity.

I would agree consequences have a place in the scheme of things but when you are like that, you are placing a need on a Caregiver to keep an eye on you, you may cause them to missing going someplace possibly with others  with you that may be hard to reschedule if at all.

They seem to think all punishments arise from anger with you rather than disappointment or concern with how you acted or failed to exercise responsibility and from that argue that to act from fear of punishment is a bad thing.

The point is it should cause you to think about how you acted affected what happened, the rubbish that wasn't taken out that built up, the poor marks from not working in class that meant you let yourself and others down and so on.

Now what those punishments should be in the context of non sexual cglre age regression lead Caregiver/little relationships ought to be discussed and reviewed frequently to the agreement of all nor should that be the sole focus of such discussions as things such as establishing aim to work on when it comes to independence, gaining maturity within your limits and helping out ought to be in there too.

It may not include physical punishments such as spanking although it is something I gladly accept but could include loss of privileges, use of natural consequences and so on.

The point is to try to help you be the best you can and to fit in with everyday norms so you can have as full a life as possible as that adult  little boy or girl  and to understand how your actions effect not only you but others. 

Older boys as key to raising younger peers

Something I do think isn't talked about is how older boys can teach others how to behave appropriately by giving them some responsibility over younger boys which may be the granting of say Dinner Monitor status to ensure plates are returned and scraped off properly, captaincy of a team or being a Prefect or Head Boy responsible for a group of boys.

I feel that leads to both the development of personal responsibility and real leadership, learning to step in on the outset and deal with things rather than waiting for someone else

Yes it may mean punishing the person although it need not be physical even if metaphorically speaking giving him a whipping is what he needed when he posed a danger to everyone.

I was given some memorable spankings by older boys when I was really out of hand that probably were the more effective for being administered by peers rather than adults as they made me think about my behaviour.

The importance of honesty

Another Wednesday here with myself, Chris, where I am mainly in school uniform being returned to boyhood which does rather suit me because its a time of learning lessons one of which is this weeks subject.
One of things things that does matter is telling the truth not that going by popular opinion  is it something we expect from people in positions of power such as business leaders or politicians although I feel our expectations ought to higher even if at times dashed.
The must basic reason for this is we have a need to feel the other person has a sense of honesty and integrity about them, that what they say is based on reality rather than either wishful thinking or something having no basis at all in fact.
Most of us can understand  and relate to what are sometimes called 'magical thoughts' where belief is suspended because the illusion of say "seeing an elephant fly" is preferable to us than the reality which is of course that they cannot. That whole notion is very child-like and because we saw it in our imagination it may feel real but isn't.
That's a stage most of us grow out of since we were about nine or so.
Telling the whole truth is something we can all struggle with especially if by doing so it shows us  in a poorer light so we do not so much say something it isn't true: we omit that which  shows our culpability and responsibility for what really transpired.
If there is a hierarchy when it comes to this it is the outright lie, the very thing that had no basis in reality at all that takes pole position.
We use it to place ourselves where we were not, to claim credit for things we did not do, to transfer the blame from us to others when we have done wrong and remove ourselves from situations where we had a responsibility but chose not to exercise it.
I am - and I am expected to -  tell the whole truth at all times and whenever I'm not there's no question of not being punished because of its seriousness.

Traditional school role playing.

When I think about school and the idea of age playing it, that's to say you act like you're say a pupil at it, what goes through my mind is way in which those of us of a certain generation recall having our moments where we had infractions dealt with .
It wasn't for the most part an era where near enough every other week a new syndrome or condition appeared connected in some way to your being educated and even if like me you had a physical disability and were labelled as Educationally Sub-normal at one point, you still were expected to try to learn even in a school that may accept your disability as that.
I was disciplined at school like any other child and I knew others who were taken off their crutches or wheelchairs to be spanked like the rest of us because while having some restrictions on how far you may learn was accepted, the idea that you may in effect be excused from trying to learn wasn't.
The same applied to your behaviour say in the playground as syndrome X didn't mean you were told you can't really help it, you were expected to at least try to and be subject to the same strict rules as everyone else.
If I was to age play then, I'd need in school role playing situation the punishments of the time era we'd be set in and accept I was to get them like every other adult school boy or girl there including getting the cane.
It might be just the thing for me.

L is for little

After last months entry I saw this and feel it's time to be more open about certain things.

I AM a little, I AM bratty at times that's cos I'm needing someone else to direct me. I DO dress and  speak in a more childlike manner although for me some of this has medical reasons and DO find this dynamic  comforting although for me there's nothing sexual going on.

A return to the headspace of the one I had at this age is so much better for me.

When you do more things like this as that age regressed boy.

The importance of honesty

One of things that does matter is telling the truth not that going by popular opinion  is it something we expect from people in positions of power such as business leaders or politicians although I feel our expectations ought to higher even if at times dashed.

The must basic reason for this is we have a need to feel the other person has a sense of honesty and integrity about them, that what they say is based on reality rather than either wishful thinking or something having no basis at all in fact.

Most of us can understand  and relate to what are sometimes called 'magical thoughts' where belief is suspended because the illusion of say" seeing an elephant fly" is preferable to us than the reality which is of course that they cannot. That whole notion is very child-like and because we saw it in our imagination it may feel real but isn't.

Telling the whole truth is something we can all struggle with especially if by doing so it shows us  in a poorer light so we do not so much say something it isn't true: we omit that which  shows our culpability and responsibility for what really transpired.

If there is a hierarchy when it comes to this it is the outright lie, the very thing that had no basis in reality at all that takes pole position.

We use it to place ourselves where we were not, to claim credit for things we did not do, to transfer the blame from us to others when we have done wrong and remove ourselves from situations where we had a responsibility but chose not to exercise it.

I am - and others around me expects me to tell the whole truth at all times and whenever I'm not there's no question of not being punished because of its seriousness.