Straightening things out

One thing that does irritate me at times is the tendency for people to assume people automatically assume a newcomer is fully up to speed with what a group is really all about to the point that with that first enquiry, people are questioning if they are "really" x or y on the basis of language used.

People are both creatures of habit and also of social conditioning so they may answer more on the basis of what they are used to especially if concepts may be fresh to them so to quickly form a judgement as to whither or not they are a "true" something or other to me seems not just unwelcoming but not allowing them the space to grow comfortable expressing themselves and to see for themselves what is is they are.

Sometimes to I feel that with some people more at one with identity politics rather than seeking the understanding of why some of us are different that they become 'gatekeepers'  of their label.

Coming out Age Dysphoric was not easy, nor was just accepting that from the inside I am a child, jettisoning a ton of neuro-typical conditioning and masking so understanding how a person fresh to this or any other condition that questions societies norms  space for their own journey is something I feel matters.

Not just making a snap judgment.