There's a part of me that doesn't care much for 'alphabet soup' initials and labels not least because meanings change over time and you have the whole business of other people forming mythunderstandings about it and pressure not to use it least they get the wrong idea.
This weekend past was my birthday more of which will be on the other blogs but it brings much of this into focus because my birthday is not a birthday of an adult with anything specifically adult in it and for a period did cause me a sense of dysphoria between how I look and present and how people treat me on the basis of chronological age.
That over time has changed as people have been educated in a low key way not to expect to see me as in that way like them, and from that to start to buy or at least enable me to buy the presents of a boy instead because that is how I permanently, am seeing me with them whenever they visit me.
This is nothing (for me) about Dominant/submissive lifestyles such as DD/lb or DM/lb so the past lexicon for me has been "Age Regressor" although it's less a going back to an age with me so much as being already being it.
If the company is accepting and respectful of that difference, not pushing me towards things I'm not into then I'm happy to share spaces and I've used Age regression as a term in absence of anything better which is accepted.
Littles communities often are accepting of us.
This year while I've always been in some form of school uniform even out celebrating my birthday with my folks, I wore the shortest grey shorts I did so I looked just as I did as a nine or ten year old me did and looking in the mirror it looked like a deadringer for that era.
In that era one present was an Action Man.
This year the main present was... the very same action man of the era I had being played with by what in the mirror looked like a ten year old Christopher.
This is part of what is at the root of the terminology debate because in general age regression is used more as the going to better period in a persons life as coping mechanism for stress, trauma and so which is fine and much needed but for a person like me really it is more that my development is 'stunted' even to the point we may no be fully able to function due to developmental disabilities.
Because a person may regress doesn't mean they may experience dysphoria around it but more that for some of us we are children of adult chronological age and we often are judged badly by others on just being as we are. We never really grew up and need a term that respects that.
This adult child is a functional ten year old who wears what he did as a ten year of his era and has the life more of one although the technology of today is different to then and has age dysphoria compared to the baseline of a grown adult of the same chronological age.
My chronological age may be the same as someone elses but we very different and that was why my birthday was so different. Medically and psychologically we need a term for just us.
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