Reasons why a Little may be silent

This image is really important not least for Caregivers and does apply to adult little boys too who tend more to show their feelings less.

We don't do direct engagement especially if we're upset over something but if you have us do something like put our footie kit on, have a kick about and then talk to us, we'll drop our guard and start talking.

You may encourage us to kick that ball with the anger we might feel so we express it, letting it go in a safe way.

Adult little boys like me need handling different to girls in order to help us work through why we are silent.

Adult Little Boy life

After that last entry, I do think we should go back to what adult little boy life really involves and the clue is in the phrase "go back to"

Being an adult little boy means you are in a state of Age Regression so what is going on is aligned very much to your own original boyhood which may well of included playing with trains, soldiers, football  and so on.

Thus what is the building block of being a Adult school boy involves a reversion to playing with the same sorts of toys and activities as you did then which as many have a adult hobby side is easy to do without getting odd looks.

We loved action and adventure Super hero comics, aping them.

In the mania for adult schoolboy status one forgets we came home to play after school and at weekends and being a (cub) scout was one period of a couple of ours in our week we used  for fun and learning to be better boys and not the whole of it.

In the corner...

Something that for some goes with it is the traditional forms of punishment boys had although I will say this does depend very much on the individual.

The naughty Little Clown needed a spanking from Big Ears the authority figure to learn right from wrong as do boys without fail.

One thing I do recall from English Language classes at high school was the importance stressed on staying to the topic you have chosen to inform your audience about.
I feel, that if I have chosen to talk about dressing as a school boy when you are in law at least an adult male you should just talk about your uniform and what you get from wearing it rather than going off on tangents which I know one person who has a site about uniforms knows only too well.
I sympathize very much with him in that a discussion on wearing traditional tailored shorts shouldn't go into talk about spanking or humiliation talk  because those who do wear them do so from choice and spanking is separate issue even if they are spanked in shorts.

ALB's are valid

Going on a bit from what I was talking about last week, I saw this in the forest of unicorns.

It was posted by a girl but you know it is so true, adult little boys like us DO matter and ARE valid.

Real boys do wash as invariably we do get dirty and when we exercise we do sweat and smell but we don't use namby-pandy feminine products with sweet smells but a good rugged bar soap that's tough like us like Lifebouy or a tar based soap
We wash and bath in masculine ways as boys not wasting time and money on fancy girlie products
Real boys smell of only one thing teen - SPIRIT

Adult little boys

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Sometimes it seems the world of littles is a world missing a gender as more often than not looking at many social media sites you will see female littles usually adult little girls who loved their age regressed life, enjoying unicorns, pretty dresses and colouring but it's rare to see boys.
That as a boy really does hack me off because the only things I do see that I can relate to is things around adult males who wear school or scouting uniform which is fine but it doesn't really cover the whole business of being a little boy all over again and really it takes a little boy to have a schoolboy as a actual bio-kid.
I think a good number of them really are adult little boys but they're dressing as school boys or (cub) scouts and that is why I feel on this blog they need to be here.

The Happy House Children

A part of a solution for me might include not so much just dressing as a younger boy but also having more of the life and interests.

One of my stronger memories of my official childhood is reading, not that I was what you might call a good reader but we did have a fair number of books in the house and stored in a big wooden toy box were some of mine, usually those my Mum thought I'd outgrown.

A good example of which is this one which was really a book for seven to ten year olds that stayed in that box well into my mid teens.

It's a series of two short stories of a group of young children called Benji, Jack and Jane plus dog who have to move together with their parents and their adventures through play with other children and grown ups.

Its very innocence, the clear lessons shown about appropriate behaviour such as owning up if you do something and clear consequences for wrong doing are woven into a fun set of adventures.

It was really that I before I knew the terms I was looking for even in my mid teens as what I now know as regression was even then a part of what made me different than most of my peers not least in my own mind I WAS that younger child.

 It was why I kept the books and puppets from that era which I feel it may make more sense to go back to.

Status reversal

Something that follows from the last entry is really around what you might call the status and authority of an individual because in mainstream society we move in almost a circle from having little as a baby or toddler, approaching adulthood where increasingly we have and are expected to make things happen more by ourselves towards senior old age where a person not just requites things done for them physically but often require people to manage their care such as fixing food, seeing to it they take medication and so on.
Part of the challenge of being me is just that, people can easily drift into thinking I am an adult who is in an adult to adult relationship with you, who grasps  what it is he required to do and is mentally and physically capable of it.
The reality of it is I've never been capable of having an adult to adult relationship with you, not even that of older schoolboy of say fourteen to sixteen years of age as those such as teachers struggled to comprehend because in reality they were talking to a little boy of junior age in shorts who for good measure didn't get all the input he needed too.
You cannot equalize this out with laws and well intentioned equality centred notions of dealing with me because you will come off the buffers because I'm child in an adult body for the most part and with those needs.
The thing that has to give is the whole concept of the equality of two adults that goes beyond say Line manager to staff member where the former has the last say over the latter although he has full adult equality and see each others as equals in all other respects to a situation where you are a Parental figure who may allow a limited amount of say when it comes to me being able to do things but within the limits set by and enforced by you as a Parent to what is in effect a Child in an adult frame regarded by law as adult by date birth alone.
Everything that happens in that is not Man to Man or Adult to Adult to degenderize it but is Adult to child because one of them isn't and doesn't at that point see anything else than being that child.

At any point of discourse between me and you, the reality of the situation is the one on the left will be me and so the start point has to be although I have rights, my upper adult rights are best extinguished in order for you to exercise the level of responsibility I need from you to keep me safe and to do what I am capable of.
In the ideal world it would be men doing this because they are the natural authority figures of and to boys and moreover having had a boyhood they have a better instinctive feel  for his needs.
Having me in more obviously schoolboyish attire does help keep the necessary status differences there although when out, it may need to be toned down a little like not wearing a school tie or anything with emblems.

Modern attitudes toward discipline and even if any is needed are all over the place when it comes to bio-kids not that this blog is about bio-kids but in so far I go, because so-called natural consequences such as missing a trip for breaking a rule don't cause me to reflect on what I did and lengthy word based scolding just get muddled up leaving me more agitated then the more traditional forms of corporal punishment of my original boyhood era are better used although I would add going over what led to it to teach me what I need to do should be in there for a period afterward to afford me the chance to learn to follow the rules.
That in a way is the difference between some who may like the idea of being in uniform and punished as end in itself and where for me it's just a re-run of childhood by the rules of the day

You yourself need to be prepared to feel comfortable about treating me as your child, your son in effect and NOT as an adult guiding, teaching and where necessary disciplining me this way because we aren't and I cannot be your equal.