Status reversal

Something that follows from the last entry is really around what you might call the status and authority of an individual because in mainstream society we move in almost a circle from having little as a baby or toddler, approaching adulthood where increasingly we have and are expected to make things happen more by ourselves towards senior old age where a person not just requites things done for them physically but often require people to manage their care such as fixing food, seeing to it they take medication and so on.
Part of the challenge of being me is just that, people can easily drift into thinking I am an adult who is in an adult to adult relationship with you, who grasps  what it is he required to do and is mentally and physically capable of it.
The reality of it is I've never been capable of having an adult to adult relationship with you, not even that of older schoolboy of say fourteen to sixteen years of age as those such as teachers struggled to comprehend because in reality they were talking to a little boy of junior age in shorts who for good measure didn't get all the input he needed too.
You cannot equalize this out with laws and well intentioned equality centred notions of dealing with me because you will come off the buffers because I'm child in an adult body for the most part and with those needs.
The thing that has to give is the whole concept of the equality of two adults that goes beyond say Line manager to staff member where the former has the last say over the latter although he has full adult equality and see each others as equals in all other respects to a situation where you are a Parental figure who may allow a limited amount of say when it comes to me being able to do things but within the limits set by and enforced by you as a Parent to what is in effect a Child in an adult frame regarded by law as adult by date birth alone.
Everything that happens in that is not Man to Man or Adult to Adult to degenderize it but is Adult to child because one of them isn't and doesn't at that point see anything else than being that child.

At any point of discourse between me and you, the reality of the situation is the one on the left will be me and so the start point has to be although I have rights, my upper adult rights are best extinguished in order for you to exercise the level of responsibility I need from you to keep me safe and to do what I am capable of.
In the ideal world it would be men doing this because they are the natural authority figures of and to boys and moreover having had a boyhood they have a better instinctive feel  for his needs.
Having me in more obviously schoolboyish attire does help keep the necessary status differences there although when out, it may need to be toned down a little like not wearing a school tie or anything with emblems.

Modern attitudes toward discipline and even if any is needed are all over the place when it comes to bio-kids not that this blog is about bio-kids but in so far I go, because so-called natural consequences such as missing a trip for breaking a rule don't cause me to reflect on what I did and lengthy word based scolding just get muddled up leaving me more agitated then the more traditional forms of corporal punishment of my original boyhood era are better used although I would add going over what led to it to teach me what I need to do should be in there for a period afterward to afford me the chance to learn to follow the rules.
That in a way is the difference between some who may like the idea of being in uniform and punished as end in itself and where for me it's just a re-run of childhood by the rules of the day

You yourself need to be prepared to feel comfortable about treating me as your child, your son in effect and NOT as an adult guiding, teaching and where necessary disciplining me this way because we aren't and I cannot be your equal.