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It is the last week of the Hols, as everyone goes back Monday for Autumn Term so the last minute dashing about for school uniform and stationery rumbles on.

I mean can you ever have enough spare pens and pencils?

It also is just over the Three Hundreth edition of Chris's Boy Talk which started in 2017 which with my maths makes it five years old where we talk about anything and everything broadly connected to boyhood, personal and general.

Like the other blogs, part of the reason it exist at all stems from issues on Tumblr where posting anything that goes against their values and that of some communities is likely to see your account zapped so having somewhere I can just set them out does help not that sometimes you have to be a bit mindful even with Blogger.

I've talked about the issues of uniform, contemporary issues like having to fight for the right to wear short trousers (although they'll let you wear skirts!!!), quality and also about how as adult little boys we like to wear uniform and some of the issues you might encounter with the odd person or two.

I have written at times quite passonately about what I see as our right to be our masculine selves as we see it where sometimes the needs of boys are ignored in a largely outdated battle between the interests of females and males.

No one would argue to discriminate when it comes to employment, opportunities and so girls and women is right but that doesn't mean males need to be more female even if being a bit less competitive and spending more time on raising families not least the next generation of boys is needed.

Females need males, boys and men who are trust worthy, who do what they say and say what they do who will stand up for their rights while being the males they are with their own support mechanisms and yes even spaces for them alone, just as women have. They need a stake in society too.

They also need to let men get on on with their role in raising boys where they have the advantage of having had the life and know their strengths and the pitfalls that boys experience that no woman can ever have any more than Father knows about being a girl. 

Women are the best by actual experience at that so are best entrusted to look after daughters.

It is why it tends to work better for their to be youth organizations that deal with each sex lead more by leaders who are adults of their own sex even if we co-operate and share facilities plus events.

Because this  blog is written by a Little I have written about and around topics connected with the wider Littles Community whatever you may personally do within that life and with no criticism of those who may do things that others don't.

The great uniform debate 2022 style

 

Another summer as no doubt parents are considering all those back to school signs we see on the high street and there is much talk about the cost of school uniform.

One BBC Radio Presenter even suggested we should scrap uniform altogther because of its expense.

My main issue with scrapping uniform is that in the absence thereof, the well off children will come in casual highly branded attire which pretty much rubs it in the faces of those less well off their dire home situations where they may struggle to afford thirty to forty pound sweatshirts or hoodies, the latest trainers and so on.

Some school uniform is expensive and I would question if everything near enough has to be branded and why blazers with sow on badges wouldn't be more affordable but the idea uniform disadvantages the least well off is one I struggle with.

Clearly some families are struggling and proper funding for a uniform grant across the whole of England would help the least well off who currently have to make do with refurbished uniform or hand me downs.

In the meantime a descrete word to the Head of Year explaining your situation may make sense as uniform often isn't the only area some children struggle with, school dinners and trips often are so a word may lead to some advice or agreed relaxation until you are able to fit within uniform rules.

Sorting out terms

It's been a very hot week with temperatures upto 34.4 degrees C making doing anything rather a chore.

Terms can be hard to understand at times and people have sometimes asked about what ALB means and where it all fits in.

This is my easy to understand version.

ALB is the abbreviation for Adult Little Boy. You could say it's more or less the same thing as adult schoolboy but not as centred on Uniform  and school rituals of various sorts.

Think of things this way first time around: He's a boy obviously and has a social life at home, around his friends and various things he is involved in like sports or cubs.

That's one side of his life.

Because he is a boy and is now say over four years, he is now old enough to attend school where apart from learning things (hopefully) he also has a life in school activities and play in the playground.

The fact he goes to school makes him a school boy but he's also a boy maybe a little boy too.

Taking this forward the adult little boy is an (legal) adult who feels he has much of that little boy in him engaging in similar interests.

An adult schoolboy is that same adult little boy who has an interest in his (past) school life.

He wears school uniform, may do some studying similar to what he did and some may attend  recreated school type sessions where he is a pupil and person is playing a teacher/headmaster.

We alternate between the two sides because that makes us the whole person.

Hol thoughts

Warm start day here as I adapt to being a schooboy on holiday.

 At the start of the month it was announced Bernard Cribbins died who was major part of our childhood.

Born in Oldham, Lancashire he got into acting at the age of fourteen, then like many was called up during WW2 in the parachute regiment before resuming.

Purposely I'm ignoring the  the grown up acting he did such as the Carry On films and leap to one of several comedy records he recorded for EMI produced by the legend that was Sir George Martin whose UK Label Parlophone had dance band music and comedy such as The Goons before an infectious Liverpool foursome called Beatles kickstarted the British Invasion.

Over here this was one of the staples of the children's requests show Junior Choice for many years together with Right Said Fred that I loved listening to at weekends as a boy.

Doctor Who is a BBC TV series that is a global sensation with a long history that was popular with children and he took part twice in it.

With the Daleks in 1964

With David Tennant in more recent times.

The Wombles were environmentally friendly superstars in the 1970's and returned in more recent years and he provided the all the voices for the 1973/5 series by Elisabeth Berrisford.

They were filmed by Filmfair in stop motion by Ivor Wood and Barry Leith who gave us many more favourite cartoons such as Ivor The Engine that we saw on the BBC back then.

In Britain, he was a staple of that much missed BBC show Jackanory where across several days leading actors and actresses read stories with vocalization to children.

Here he is as one of the actors tackling J.R.R. Tolkien's The Hobbit in 1976.

Measurement

Things are different than where they were at the start of this whole adventure several years back when things were more in a loop, exploring getting so far and stepping back and when I rather assumed it was all about the clothes.

Well, the clothes were definately in there but since then I can see it's connected more to things such as roles, how I see me in my own mind and how certain medical conditions and boyhood incidents leave me.

That washing line may as well be mine with shorter than most modern boys short trousers, long socks , white or grey shirts and white y fronts all very much on display to the world sending a clear signal a traditional school boy lives here whatever age officially may be recorded and often is seen about in public as one.

It's really more about accepting and being your authentic self on a daily basis, not feeling you have to put on an act for the benefit of others that just makes you feel quite sad as if they cannot accept the real you.

I just feel so much better now.