This week I'm going to be talking about online communities because let's be honest often they are the means we do get in touch with each other given we can't walk down the high street with "Adult Little Boy", "A.S.B" or for the other sex "Adult Little Girl" on badges attached to our tops and starting a conversation with "Do you like to dress in school uniform or play with plushies?" has a high awkwardness probability.
Most of us know Tumblr, we have a love-hate relationship with sometimes, more hate to be sure but we use it cos it's usable on paper at least permits us to have accounts connected with it and it's not too hard to make new accounts if the idiots ban us mistaking a liking of being in that regressed state acting as if we are that boy although in law we're adults and we don't wish for any inappropriate interaction with actual boys (in law) but they seem to have different ideas.
That means sometimes you may investigate other sorts of communities on websites that might include virtual worlds which is where the fun really begins.
The first thing you will find is some groups have a long history and don't have visible pages even say a 'sample' page of what may be discussed or happen on site so you may not know if in fact the group is active even.
Who wants to play by themselves?
Some have a kind of repairative family feel aimed more at those who regardless of sex have trauma or similar issues from the past and are aimed more at nurturing, regaining trust and confidence together with some guidance.
One issue I found troubling to do with one site is how one the one hand a lot of fuss was made about not wanting usernames that might possibly lead someone to think there was an actual child member to the point of banning "prince", "princess" "little" as in "little with name" but on the other hand permitted someone to have "X's Daddy" a term we'd all associate with being being a child or a term that signifies being a head teacher of actual boys and girls in a username.
The other is to my mind obvious which is people likely to use a site either have past trauma or developmental issues as I openly acknowledge personally or may be people who might wish to take advantage of them joining.
A user says they are experiencing a flashback from child abuse and so will be off line and NO ONE on site management posts anything or as I found out even messaged them about it.
You don't need to be an expert and there are limits on what as mere ordinary folk we can do but you can do a lot by being around, having empathy and attempting to reach out to that person.
That on a so-called "ethical age play site" to me is just so wrong - you have some responsibilities even it is to sign post for help or ask them to contact them later so you can look at how to help them on site.
It does make me question just how "ethical" they are and the risks involved in small unaccountable groups.
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