Idealism vs Reality

To me, this is one of the most important messages of the Winnie the Pooh stories that I feel are so important for boys to read and learn from.

It is sad we cannot always be with the people we love and loved the most but the most important thing is what it is we learn from them and about ourselves that we take forward on this adventure called LIFE we are on.

OUR adventure begets that of others who become apart of it and carry on as we in time leave it, learning lessons that all of us badly need to learn to make the most of ourselves and our lives.

We don't give up, we move forward instead.

The value of being there

As this week gone two irreplaceable public figures who I knew personally have died, it's time to talk about what matters.

It always seemed to me the best moments were the unplanned, unscripted ones where you just gave something a shot for the heck of it, seeing how it might come out not that I'd suggest going out for overnight hiking trip without planning it and making a checklist.

No just things like taking a piece of paper and just getting down an idea in your head whither or not it's a drawing or words or making something using techniques you'd not previously used.

The other thing really is having done it, that feeling of satisfaction and the need we have to share it with people who care about us which might be making that phone call to say you won something or like the boy here, showing Mum his latest and greatest drawing.

I feel that being prepared to take time out of what you were doing and engage with people especially children when they've just achieved something really matters in encouraging them to work on their potential.

Does it matter if the washing up is a smidgen delayed for looking at and talking to him about that drawing, encouraging him in his exploration of art? 

Many have remarked the best way to learn about what's on a boys mind is through talking with him as he does things with you, not formal conversations in the front room.

Time spend with him like that is invaluable and the time these people made for me is time that made differences for the good.