How not to respond to a post

 Well I was going to write something pretty different here but seeing a post on the site Fur Affinity by a person who was born according to their birth certificate as male but appeared to be questioning the idea of being different although they had the odd inclination to wear a skirt.

I was going to put a good half hour writing a reply as something else happened that was a person waded straight in with a "come on in, the waters fine" reply as a transsexual taking them right down that line despite clear doubts.

Well I'm going to say straight off that lead to this post which is around how I saw the original post and not as I believe it was misread by a trans activist.

The first thing can hurt but I'll say it anyway which is wearing a skirt or a dress doesn't make you a woman, many women whatever our own likes and dislikes might be about that do just wear jeans, trousers and shorts near enough 95% or more of the time.

The question if you were in any way transgender is more one of do you fit in better with with females because how you relate to yourself and other females that you would sooner be her because you feel you are all the time?

Do you feel a sense of disconnectedness when you see yourself in the mirror between your conception of you, even intense dislike, hate and that body image that you'd trade that for a women's with a lot of surgery to make look from the outside  as if you were born one?

This person said they had a curiosity about wearing a skirt or a dress but felt pretty neutral about their (recorded male) gender having no sense of being at odds with themselves.

Men and boys can and do wear kilts to which some men do prefer the feel and look of over any sort of trousers and so my suggestion might of been to had experimented with wearing a kilt and working on acceptance of what makes you the unique male you were born with first as they had no strong feelings.

There are a small number of men who do part time dressing as a woman for a whole host of reasons but they generally like to 'come back' to being a man and that's not shameful or wrong, just something that fulfils a need without doing something they know would never be them.

Instead they got treated to the "Tell your closet friends to refer to you as female with she/her pronouns, wear skirts and welcome aboard" which really wasn't the best advice at all.

That's the thing that annoys me so much about the activists. It's not defending their right to be themselves and of people who do find after careful consideration they do fit better in the female world, it's more the slightest indication of a variant and wanting to push you down a route that if you read properly what they said they were not looking for.

I may have the odd non stereotypical interest but that doesn't alter my real gender identity and sex.