The Family and the Boy

Nine days to go before The Day as my Barber's reminded me yesterday when I went in for my Christmas tidy up dressed as ever in grey lined schools short trousers and matching turnover socks with two green bars with garters holding them up.

Clearly this boy just received a piece of news he wasn't quite expecting from his Mummy but it isn't that that gets my attention here.

No, it is the fact this boy lives in a family where everyone knows who they are, where there are two adults to help raise the boy and he knows that he is not a mini adult but just a boy whose wishes are subservient to the grown ups who look after him.

There is shall we say a clear structure in place and that is for the good.

It is sad some family relationships do break down but somewhere down the line we've moved from saying we ought to give boys and girls the best most ideal start we can to one of it doesn't matter when so many in society are dealing with the lack of time, the muddled boundaries and standards in those who have been brought up in unstable settings not receiving the attention and love  they need to grow becoming responsible citizens.

Boys especially benefit from one to one male support of the sort fathers and uncles are best placed to provide.

Adults need to consider more what they have to offer a child and be prepared to changes to their lives before having one and in the event of any unforeseen circumstances put the child's welfare first.